Transitions in life seem to be sometimes unexpected, difficult at worst and unsettling at best. So how do you deal with them? Maybe your young child has moved onto the next phase… maybe your oldest has moved out… maybe it’s a new job or house… a loss of a loved one. Sometimes it’s a change in mindset or one of those “aha” moments that forever changes your view on life. So, how do you cope?
Let’s be clear… closing the door, hiding under the bed, or covering your eyes and ears hoping it will all go away are not helpful solutions… even though they may be effective for brief moments! Going fishing, drinking more beer, watching more sports… immersing yourself in whatever hobby or self-medication of choice also doesn’t work and sometimes makes it even worse. So what do you do?
Some things to think about and do when faced with change and transition…
- Pray… for guidance, discernment, courage and wisdom… and then listen (that’s a hard one for me)!
- Seek God’s wisdom from scripture… marinate in His words, let them seep into you, soften you up, and re-flavor your life
- Give yourself grace… transitions are tough, can take the wind out of your sails and take some time to get readjusted. It’s like a mourning process and you can experience all of the emotions… sadness, anger, resistance, denial and on and on… It’s okay to not have all the answers… really… and to feel… yes I used that word!
- Ask for help… I know this is a tough one for us guys but it really works. I would suggest asking someone to walk with you who has been through something similar. Experience is an amazing teacher! Someone 10-15 years older with a helping heart is a great place to start. I’ve got a group of guys called my “Personal Board of Directors” who have carried a lot of the load over the last few years! What a blessing they have been!
- Persevere… sometimes it takes pure fortitude to make it through. When you’re through it, share it!
- Be thankful and celebrate… for the people, for God’s presence, and for the growth experienced
Change is inevitable! What do you have in place to thrive through it? Ask for help now!